Buddhism for Mothers: Finding Calm
Wow. This chapter came along at the perfect time for me. Calm.
It’s not much of a secret that I can be a rather anxious mama. I do make an effort everyday and I believe I put on a pretty calm front. In my own mind though… Oh, goodness, I’m wringing my hands much of the time.
While reading this chapter, I thought of this poem again and again. (That post keeps coming up, doesn’t it?) The idea of approaching each situation/thought/feeling with equanimity is so very helpful when yearning for a state of calm. Treating our emotions with hospitality and giving each room to just be allows us to observe and experience them without letting the emotions control us. It’s important to remember this in the context of all emotions though, not just the negative or painful ones. Giving positive emotions room as well prevents us from creating attachments to them and hinging our happiness on moments we qualify as “good”. Each moment is equally important.
Equanimity certainly takes practice and time. I sometimes get frustrated when I realize I am once again caught in a negative thought pattern and must remember that the road to calm is a spiritual journey and not a straight path. I know I struggle with treating myself with compassion and patience, as I imagine many mothers do. If we cannot treat ourselves with compassion, how can we expect to find compassion for others?
Which part of this chapter spoke to you? What are your thoughts on equanimity?